Be Curious #12 - 31 May 2025

Accepting what cannot be controlled

Photo by Daniele Levis Pelusi on Unsplash

Welcome to Be Curious, a newsletter where I reflect on my own life and consider the world around me.

It’s been a minute, friends, since I wrote to you. There has been no lack of activity, nor a desire to write. It is simply that, in order to take care, I’ve had to simply stop. To manage my health, both physical and emotional. To deal with what has felt like chaos around me. To not succumb to overwhelm.

We have finally sold our home and last week, I drove for two days alone, to our new city, in order to inspect and hopefully find our new home. On this, I was successful, and we will settle into our new city and abode in early July. This has been incredibly stressful for us, but we feel confident that our chosen home will meet our needs and bring joy.

On the drive home, I started listening to an audiobook, which made the drive much easier. Once I am finished, I’ll review it, but it’s been a fantastic choice!

I’ve finally had some answers to the health issues I’ve been dealing with earlier this year (and, well, for decades without knowing). I’ve been diagnosed with endometriosis, which affects many, many women and which can be debilatating. Despite the pain it has brought to me in recent months, I am lucky that I have not experienced the worst of it that many women do, so I am grateful for that and hopeful that it remains so.

I’ve also been assessed as having ADHD, which did not come as a total surprise but, as I have been reading to learn more, provides clarity to much of my life. Suddenly, so much makes sense about me. Things I couldn’t explain now seem obvious. I am particularly focussing on the experience of adult women who are being diagnosed, like me, later in life. This is quite different to the experience of children and of men. There is more assessment to come and work to be done, particularly around how to best manage it going forward. I am leaning toward non-medicated behavioural therapy in the first instance, but that keeps other options open.

We are also dealing with some challenges in our extended family which are proving stressful for all.

For now, I am finding solace in my books, my pugs and knowing that some of this chaos is temporary and some of it will come into greater control as 2025 rolls on. I am holding on to that knowledge and trying to give myself the space and grace to let things evolve as they will.

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What I have been reading:

Since I last wrote, I have read:

Currently reading:

The Year I Met My Brain by Matilda Boseley

Listening to:

Kingmaker: Pamela Harriman’s Astonishing Life of Seduction, Intrigue and Power by Sonia Purnell

Watching:

The Four Seasons on Netflix

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With love,